More details on the Gretchen Rossi restraining order against Jay Photoglou

I am really starting to like the website Radar Online! According to their latest post on the Jay Photoglou melodrama, Gretchen is seeking restraining orders in additional cities. Here's what they have to say:

"Real Housewife Files a Restraining Order
Adding another twist to her ongoing real-life drama, The Real Housewives of Orange County star Gretchen Rossi filed a temporary restraining order on Friday against a rumored recent ex-boyfriend Jay Photoglou.

A source tells RadarOnline.com exclusively that Rossi had at least thirty pages of evidence against Photoglou to show the judge this morning and plans on filing similar orders in multiple cities. She also apparently filed a restraining order for him to stay away from her dogs.

"I look forward to the truth being played out in court," Photoglou tells RadarOnline.com. "It's an obvious attempt by Gretchen to silence me, as I've only spoken the truth about our relationship."

Here's a direct link to their article: http://www.radaronline.com/exclusives/2009/03/real-housewife-files-a-restraining-order.php

I guess it would be easy to accrue 30 pages of evidence with Jay's big mouth and busy fingers hitting up every tabloid and internet website he can find....

Jason Mesnick and Molly Malaney show their faces--On Ellen's talk show

Well I hope that's the last I see of those two...I tuned on mostly to see how Ellen would handle the scandal-ridden couple. Jason's excuses are weak and pathetic and when they brought Molly out, what's with her embracing and kissing Jason? Um, didn't they arrive to the studio together and weren't they backstage in hair and makeup together? Someone forgot to give Molly the memo to QUIT pretending like she hasn't seen Jason--like she did on the Affter the Rose Part II atrocity.

I could also live with just one four minute segment when they can refrain from shoving their tongues down each other's throats. Just...ick.

Now, go away.

Jay's reason for giving the 911 tape to radar online...WEAK

Here's what Jay posted online, regarding his release of the 911 call (links to the actual call and restraining order filing at end of post):

"This 911 call took place at 00:32 hrs. Wednesday January 28th 2009. 3 days before the filming of the reunion show of the Orange County housewives.

The events immediately leading up to and following this call are critical in understanding why I made this call. I really thought Gretchen had taken Lunest to take her life. A by product of this call will show Gretchen as someone who will say whatever she needs to to get whatever she wants.

*Please read this before you listen to the call.*


Grecthen knows the story of someone in my life that tried to commit suicide, she has even asked me if even I have talked to them to let them know how much it affected me, after meeting this person. This will always be a sensitive subject for me.

So, to the night of the call.

Gretchen and I started out Leaving our house at 8 or 8:30 P.M. (I had moved in December 29th 2008) we were going to a birthday party @ 3 thirty 3 in Newport Beach. While at the party, Gretchen noticed a girl there named J***. J*** works at the salon Gretchen gets her hair done. Gretchen had just found out a few days earlier that J*** had just started dating C**** her ex- husband (he claims they were just friends). She was not happy as she thought she was J***'s friend.

While at 3 Thirty 3 stares went back and forth across the bar between Gretchen and J***. About 10:45 a friend of mine comes out of the ladies room and says I think Gretchen is getting into a fight in there. I look over and J*** was gone too.

I ask the birthday boy's girlfriend to go check and see if she is O.K. Birthday boy's Girlfriend agree'd. Then another friend of ours comes out of the Ladies room and says "you should go in there and get your girlfriend", to me. I figure Birthday boys girlfriend is in there one of them can grab help if it gets that bad.

30 minutes go by, Gretchen and 4 of our friends come out of the ladies room. ALL of them (except Gretchen) looking at me like 'dude you gotta control her'. I asked what happened and Gretchen said "I gave J*** a piece of my mind". Then one of the girls that was in there with her "yeah and almost a piece of your fist".

I said "girl (referring to Gretchen) you gotta stop that, you gotta get over what C**** is doing". I said this in front of the other people (I shouldn't have done that) She claimed I was taking C****'s side. So this started an arguement between us. She explained this and that about how J*** was her friend and she has no right to date C**** several times. So after I still didn't take her side and she said "I'm just gonna kill myself".... O.K. I was (too) thinking dramatic. But figured lets go home, so to not excite the situation I said "Let's just go home and write your blog". We had watched the episode earlier and always wrote her blog together. Notice no blog since Jan 23rd 2009???

We were still arguing as we walked outside to valet. Valet pulled her car up she got in the passenger seat, that was fine, although she had driven there, I thought she was too upset and a little buzzed too drive. I shut her door got in the driver's side of the car. as I started to pull away I realized I forgot my jacket inside. So I told her I was going back to get it.

When I went back inside and grabbed my jacket I let birthday boy know we were leaving. Gave him a short summary why (no longer than 5 minutes inside) we were leaving. I walked outside and saw she and the car were gone. I asked valet if he saw where she went, pointing at where the car was he said "she got out said ""F*** him"" and drove away.

I walked back inside to see if anyone else was leaving to give me a ride home. No one was. So I jumped in a cab and went home. My cell phone battery was dead. My keys to my car, car charger and the house were inside the house so I couldn't call or let myself in.

I rang the door bell. I couldn't have been more than 15 minutes behind her. No answer, so I walked to the back yard. Checking the sliding glass door it was locked too. The worst just went through my mind. She overdosed on her prescription sleeping pills (Lunesta). I now start banging very loud. I then walk to the side garage door and knock again very loud. I decide to walk to the street to see if someone driving by would call 911 I was scared she took her pills and was making good on her threat. No one drove by for 5 minutes. I walk back to the house, pounded on the front door very hard. She finally came down opened the garage door. I lived there. She even told the police that when they were there.

I walked in and immediately asked her why it took her so long to answer. She said "I was sleeping". I said "Gretchen you don't sleep that deep unless you've taken your sleeping pills", and asked her if she took her sleeping pills. She said "maybe". I said how many. no answer from her. I said "Gretchen I'm not kidding" she smirked. So I picked up the phone and called 911.

Now please listen to the call.


After seeing the reunion show. It became clear to me that Gretchen is going to do or say what she wants to get what she wants.

On the tape you heard her say I am her boyfriend. Then 3 days later on the filming of the reunion show when called out by Tamra she says no he is an ex. The morning of the reunion show filming I walked her cloths to the driver of the towncar supplied Bravo/Evolution. On the way home from the filming of the reunion show she sent a text to me " I am too shaken up to talk I just want to come home and take a sleeping pill". This has been her way of letting me know something is serious, and to take her serious she is not in a laughing mood. (The night of the 911 call she went one step further by using the word kill)

She lied about where I lived on the 911 tape, but when the police were there she told the truth (I think that was because I could hear her talking to the police officers in the house and she knew I would say something if she lied about where I lived.)

You hear her lie about my last name. This is because there was alot of stuff on the Internet about us. She later said she did that so no one could look up my name and see us in a police report together.

I am upset the most about the night she referred to me as sliding my hand over on her and making an unwanted advance. I was driving that night and the things she described DID NOT HAPPEN THAT WAY at all.

Gretchen tell the truth!!!"

******

Well since Jay admits this happened before the Reunion Show taped, maybe THAT is why Gretchen called Jay a "stalker" and an "ex?" Still doesn't give her a pass on not being fully honest, but I'm glad she filed for a restraining order today. I think this guy is seriously crazy after listening to the 911 call. He would have been better off not leaking it....?? And, if he insisted on releasing it and writing the above post, maybe he should look into spell check??

Here are some links from previous posts:

The infamous 911 call: http://radaronline.com/exclusives/2009/03/real-housewife-denies-suicide-claim-on-911-tape.php


And.... a link to the lovely "Absurd to sublime blog," which has a copy of Gretchen's filing for a restraining order against this nut: http://absurdtosublime.blogspot.com/2009/03/gretchen-rossi-and-jay-photoglou-she.html

Gretchen Rossi files for restraining order against Jay Photoglou (NOW will you go away, Jay??)

I was just cruising one of my fav sites, Absurd to Sublime because they always have *the best* OC dish and once again, they deliver! Gretchen filed for a restraining order this afternoon against that idiot, Jay Photoglou. Reason? Harassment. It's about time! I just wish we could make it a class-action. Photoglou is a clown....I am only sad that Tamra's son, Ryan, isn't on the police force. Maybe he could have a guest starring role in Jay's fiasco!

Here's a link to Absurd to Sublime, where they were even kind enough to copy the order for us! http://absurdtosublime.blogspot.com/2009/03/gretchen-rossi-and-jay-photoglou-she.html

Jay Photoglou's 16th Min of Fame, via 911 call & his Myspace quote

Ha! I just found this gem on radar online. I never heard of that site until they aired some interviews with crazy Octomom. Now they are playing the famous 911 call that Jay has been broadcasting on every site will vindicate him.

NOT IN THE LEAST!

It seems Psycho Jay rings Gretchen's doorbell for 25 minutes and when she lets him in, he dials 911 and tells them that Gretch is attempting suicide!! When pressed for *HOW* she is trying to kill herself, he claims she's taken Lunesta (sleeping pills).

Gretchen takes over the phone, not at all in an overdose haze. She sounds more lucid than dumb-ass Jay!

On the shady side, Gretchen admits Jay is her boyfriend and she gives a fake last name for him.

If I were dealing with a nitwit like Photoglou, I'd want something stronger than Lunesta!!

If you have 13 minutes you don't mind wasting, listen for yourself http://radaronline.com/exclusives/2009/03/real-housewife-denies-suicide-claim-on-911-tape.php


PS---I had to add the pearls of wisdom Jay has posted on his Myspace (damn, I wish he could take his own advice here):

"Photoglou Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are" http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewProfile&friendID=9926872 Too bad Jay has neither character nor reputation.

Melissa appears on Ellen DeGeneres talk show (VIDEO)

Melissa was a guest on Ellen's talk show this afternoon. I think she did a terrific job and I believe she was honest.

Jason and Molly are scheduled to be on Ellen tomorrow and I don't expect them to skate. I don't think Ellen is a big fan of theirs and I watched the promo of Jason holding a rose and I felt nauseatious.

I liked seeing a picture of Melissa with her new beau, Ty, and she did confirm that the emails circulating are real, FYI.

The emails between Melissa and Jason Mesnick

The internet has been buzzing about the emails between Jason and Melissa, post break up and it didn't take long before they fell into the hands of Access Hollywood. Here's a link to the pdf file.

Basically, Jason is a wuss. That's not really news is it? He blames it all on "the producers," and Melissa says she believes he was in touch with Molly while they were engaged...

Read for yourself: http://www.accesshollywood.com/content/pdfs/BachelorEmails.pdf

Chris Harrison's final blog

I really liked that Chris Harrison started blogging this season. His blogs always stir up tons of posts and he takes the criticism in stride. He's become "The Bachelor's Wingman" and although I think his role is rather baffoonish (clinking the glass, announcing that it's the "final" rose, etc). Here's his final wrap up of The Bachelor Mess:




Not sure if it's safe to come back in here, but I wanted to come back today and give you my final thoughts now that everything is out in the open. I completely understand that many, if not most, of you are upset at what went down. It's not up to me to judge whether Jason was right or wrong in doing what he did. That's for you guys to decide and debate. I hate that he hurt Melissa like he did but I also see the other side. I spent time with him and Molly and have talked to both of them several times since we shot After the Final Rose part 1. I don't know if it makes it any easier for you to swallow but they are in love and are fighting like hell under an extreme amount of pressure to make this work. I told him that he must really love Molly to have done this. The easy thing for him to have done was break up with Melissa and just let it all go away, but that's not the choice he made and that's what we showed you.

I found it very interesting to hear what the bachelorettes who came back had to say. Most of them are very good friends with Melissa, but they saw firsthand what really happened this season. I can tell you now that we all thought it was Melissa from the start. I remember thinking that first night that it was going to be hard for us to hide the fact that Jason was so in love with her. Even the other women could tell it was Melissa. But they also said that they could see his feelings for Molly grow stronger toward the end. It will be debated for some time to come what was right and what was wrong, and I'm happy to hear all of your opinions. I really am. I find it fascinating to hear how you feel about all this. We all bring our own baggage into this discussion and that definitely helps shape our thoughts and feelings. I'm not here to apologize or excuse anything that Jason said or did, but let me say this publicly about everybody involved: I consider all three of them to be friends. I've talked to Melissa and know she's doing fine. You'll see her this week telling her story to Ellen and in the magazines. By the way, I will also be dishing on Ellen's show Wednesday. I wish Melissa the best and know that we'll keep in touch and that she'll be fine. I also consider Molly and Jason to be friends now and wish them nothing but the best. After taping the special Friday night, Jason, Molly, Jillian, my wife, and my friends all hung out in my dressing room and had a cold one. We talked about what was about to happen this week. Jason and Molly are well aware that many don't appreciate what happened and hold ill feelings toward them. They are going to have a lot of pressure on them and all they can do is just rely on each other and do the best they can. I wish you all could have hung out with us and just seen that these are real people going through life just like you and I are. It just so happens that what they do is magnified times a thousand because they are on TV.

There will be a lot said and written about this season of The Bachelor. For better or worse, it's one for the history books. I can't do much about the rumors and flat-out lies that are being told out there. I have been as honest and as detailed with you as I could possibly have been. I am sorry that this is hurting some of my friends but they are strong people and will come out on the other side of this just fine. I've never been a part of anything like this before and will be perfectly happy if it never happens again. Ratings aside and contrary to what some of you may believe, I didn't enjoy one bit of what happened. I would love to show you a great love story every time but that's not how life works, and in the end we may have indeed brought you a love story after all. Five years down the road, when Jason and Molly are married, I wonder if many of you will feel different about this.

Let me just wrap this up by saying, I'm very excited to announce Jillian as our next Bachelorette. I think it always speaks volumes about our show when the good people like Jillian decide to come back. I think it also helps that I showed her the script for next season, and although she's not happy about having octuplets, she does like the guy we picked for her so she's all good. Seriously, Jillian is the best. We couldn't have found a more down to earth, funny, thoughtful woman. I hope she finds what she's looking for but be warned – even if she does, we just learned it may not happen exactly how you like!

A quick thank you to the wonderful crew I work with on The Bachelor year in and year out. I love you all like family. My thanks to my new friends at EW. When I started this I had never blogged before and now that it's done it's safe to say I'll never do it again. Kidding...I'll be back blogging about Jillian when we premiere in May. Until then, thank you for watching.

For everyone who's been a part of this one, I'm Chris Harrison. Good Night!


The one line I STRONGLY object to is this one: "Five years down the road, when Jason and Molly are married, I wonder if many of you will feel different about this." Give it a rest, Chris, they have been dating SIX WEEKS. That would be, uh, a RECORD for Jason Mesnick. Let's not get too far ahead of ourselves!!

Here's the link to Chris's blog: http://popwatch.ew.com/popwatch/the_bachelor/index.html

Ryan Sutter has some words about Jason...

I posted Trista Sutter's not-so-nice reaction to Jason Mesnick and his Bachelor-bombshell. Reading around the internet, I found Ryan Sutter's blog (didn't know he had one) and he also has some unflattering opinions to share.

You know you suck when a guy like Ryan Sutter, who I didn't think had spoken in about 7 years, has some choice words for your morality and behavior. Enjoy!


Ryan Sutter comments about Jason:

Because I actually watched the last hour of the Bachelor last night I thought I would jump into the popular conversation and offer my two cents.

Prior to last night I had not watched a Bachelor series since the Bachelorette that I was on seven years ago. Why? I don’t believe the show holds a very high moral standard and quite frankly I don’t enjoy reliving a very stressful and exhausting time in my life. That said, I would not change my experience and find my personal hardships a very small price to pay for the resulting life they afforded me.

You see love is not easy to come by. Sometimes it embarrasses you. Sometimes it humbles you. And sometimes, as in Jason’s case, it makes you look like a complete jackass. Jason took part in a show that preys on those of weak spine and spirit. He fell victim to a program of intense emotional overload intended to create a narrow tunnel of vision from which only rash and irresponsible decisions could possibly be made.

I have no doubt he made the decision he felt was right when he chose Melissa. I’ll buy his explanation that when the real world with all of its real world influences and realities came back into play he had second thoughts. At some point, however, Jason needed to realize that the re-entry of the real world meant that he needed to resume his role as a real man. If his feeling for Melissa had changed he should have told her.

There is absolutely no excuse for the savage treatment Jason laid on Mellisa’s heart. If he truly cared he would have disregarded the request of the show to hold a public break-up. Jason crumbled under the pressure of the production and in the process walked down a path cast with shadows of shame for which he will always be remembered.

Jason had to know the consequences of his choices. His cliche laden explanations, though weak and uninspiring, are his attempt to justify a decision he is convinced he made for love. If that is truly the case, can we really blame him? I get emails all the time from people desperate to find love. It seems some people are willing to do most anything for a chance at the queasy stomached emotion.

Still, I would like to believe that when it came right down to it, the majority of the broken-hearted would stop short of blatantly and quite publicly torching the feelings of someone they laid claim to caring for simply to further their own desperate quest for love. Love is a powerful force, capable of providing us with both the cause for stupid decisions and the strength to overcome them. For Jason’s sake I hope he found it.

Courtesy of www.ryansutter.com/blog

From Jason's Myspace Page:

I came across Jason Mesnick's Myspace page last night and since then, it's been "updated." I don't know if the update included purging the TON of angry posts I saw on his page last night, but here's his new "About Me" blurb:


About me:
I just want to say 'thank you' to everyone who's been supportive throughout the entire Bachelor process (especially over the last 24 hours!). I can't tell you how much I appreciate the encouragement. Reality TV and reality are sometimes worlds apart, so again...thank you for understanding that and for sticking with me. Molly and I are incredibly happy together and your well wishes mean so much right now. For those of you who've been asking what I'm up to next, I'm working on starting a new resource/organization for single moms and dads - something I'm obviously very passionate about. Check back in a couple days for more details. Talk to you soon, Jason


Hmmmmm. Starting an organization for single moms and dads? Homeboy should concentrate his efforts on getting some psychological help, but okay....

Trista Sutter speaks out about Jason Mesnick (and it's not flattering, Jay!)

HA! I just saw this article on MSNBC. It's Trista's reaction to Jason and his engagement gone wrong

Here are a few of my fav quotes from Trista:

Original “Bachelorette” Trista Sutter, who was an avid watcher of the show this season, said she couldn’t believe how it all unfolded, as Mesnick broke off his engagement with Melissa Rycroft and got back together with the previously dumped Molly Malaney during the “After The Final Rose” special.

“I am still just blown away that anyone could do that. I mean, first of all, to propose to one person when you say you’re in love with two people, that just seems not necessarily right to begin with,” Sutter said. “I just feel horrible for Melissa. No one deserves to go through what she went through.”

and this:

And while Mesnick told People magazine it wasn’t his choice to break up with Rycroft on national TV, claiming it was “part of the deal” with ABC, Sutter had a hard time believing he couldn’t have at least given Rycroft fair warning.

“I had a contract with the producers at one time, and I can’t speak to what Jason’s contract said and what he was required to do, but it seems like the right thing to do would’ve been to tell Melissa before he blindsided her in front of a national audience,” Sutter added. “He could have told Melissa exactly what was going to happen beforehand so that she had some breathing room. That would have been a little classier. I just think it was really disappointing.”

OH---AND *THIS*

However, Sutter said she doubted she would’ve been able to give Michel a second chance had he come back asking for one like Mesnick did with Malaney.

“I don’t know that I would have, because deep down, I knew he chose someone else over me, even though he told me he was falling for me — he didn’t give me a chance,” she explained. “I was surprised that Molly did. I would’ve said, ‘You know what, I have been waiting for you to say this for a long time, but let’s take it step by step because I don’t know where I truly stand if you decided to propose to someone else.’”

“And I wouldn’t be kissing him! That was another disappointing thing to me,” she continued. “He was engaged to someone, what, an hour before that and then he’s kissing somebody else? It just doesn’t seem right.”

And while her heart goes out to Rycroft, who she has met and called “adorable and truly a sweet girl,” Sutter also felt bad for someone else involved in the “Bachelor” love triangle, Mesnick’s young son, Ty.

“As a mom, I just feel bad for Ty. I know that’s probably not what people are thinking about because it’s about the women, but the fact is Ty was introduced to both of these ladies… Ty saw Jason hold their hands and probably kiss these two women, and after the proposal, they even all jumped in the pool together,” she said. “He’s seen his dad fully invested in a relationship with Melissa, and now to change it up and bring back Molly has got to be confusing for a 4-year-old… It’s just so awful all around.” Here's a link to the article:http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/29494451/

I am glad Trista called Jason out for all the following things: what Jason put Melissa through, that he was in any way "forced" or under any obligation to break up with Melissa on televsion, the fact that less than an hour after dumping his fiancee, he was playing tonsil hockey wih the girl he previously dumped and how confusing this all will be to his 4 year old son. Kudos, Trista!

Deanna Pappas..delusional? Returns to the Bachelor (surprise) in New Zealand

I was musing in an earlier post about the unnecessary cameo appearance by former Bachelorette, Deanna Pappas. I have never seen her on any tv show. I did see footage of how she allowed Jason to propose to her last season before telling him that he was a loser--and he still is!

Still, Deanna showed up in a matronly outfit, had a super brief convo with Jason and then dashed back to her waiting car. Literally, if you blinked (or ran to the kitchen for another much-needed glass of wine) during the finale, you missed Deanna.

I remembered reading a magazine article/interview about the return of Deanna and it's been so overplayed and hyped that I felt sure she'd be delivering a big bombshell. Instead, it was about a minute of "Dear Abby, advice columnist" and then, I guess, jet home from New Zealand to Atlanta? Here's a highlight...

"We know from upcoming clips that you make an appearance on The Bachelor. Can you give us a preview?

"The burning question. Unfortunately everyone will just have to watch and see what I am doing there. It will be worth the wait. The women were not that happy to see me, I can tell you that."

Huh???!!! As far as the audience knows, she saw neither of the two women so it's a strange remark, but maybe NOT...coming from a woman who broke her engagement and has a show about...well, getting married!

Here's the full article:



Bachelorette DeAnna Pappas didn’t get her fairy-tale ending after enduring two seasons on the reality dating show, but that hasn’t stopped her from helping other frazzled brides-to-be plan their big day as the host of Get Married, a wedding advice show that airs every weekday on Lifetime. In a recent phone interview from Atlanta, where she lives and tapes the series, the 27-year-old chatted about, yes, weddings, hinted at why she and ex Jesse Csincsak called it quits and talked about her much-anticipated visit to The Bachelor pad now inhabited by her Bachelorette runner-up Jason Mesnick. — Carrie Bell

Tell us about your new co-hosting gig on Get Married?

It is the bride’s guide to getting married…from finding the right dress and invitations to writing vows, picking a cake and planning the honeymoon. The show handles broad topics and refers viewers to the site GetMarried.com where they can find local vendors and even more tips. My co-host Colin Cowie and I also have blogs on the site. Me, I just talk about everyday life and my ongoing quest for love.

Why did you want to host this show?

When the opportunity came about I was engaged, and when the president of the company contacted me in Colorado, I thought I could learn something [for my wedding] and follow my TV hosting dream. I flew back home to Atlanta and met with her. It is a very close-knit family, a comfortable setting and I really liked their goal of helping brides and grooms.

What do you say to people who question your credibility as a host of a wedding program?

I have very thick skin but negative comments would get anybody down. I still very much want to fall in love, get married and have my own family. My beliefs and wants and needs haven’t changed. I am still the same person even though I am no longer engaged. Colin is not engaged or getting married and the last two hosts weren’t either. There is so much focus on me because I was that girl who went on two reality shows to find love and it didn’t work out.

Do you still believe in happily ever after?
I still believe in happily ever after. None of my past relationship have worked out for a reason, but I believe those people have come into my life to lead me to the next person and maybe that next person is the one I am meant to go to the altar with.

We have heard a lot from Jesse about your breakup. Can you give us your side of the story?

Life moves on. He’s in another relationship. It’s been three months now and I’m pretty much over dealing with the breakup. Everyone handles it differently and sometimes when people are hurt and mad, they say things they didn’t mean. Hopefully one day people will be sorry for the false accusations and mean things that they have said, often on the Internet. Although I did choose to put myself out there on national TV, there are things I believe should be kept private and out of respect for me and Jesse. We realized that we were two totally different people who wanted totally different things and we lived our lives in totally different ways and it was never gonna work. I loved him sincerely, but it would not have worked in the long run.

Do you guys keep in touch? Any chance for reconciliation?

Nope. No chance of us getting back together for sure by now.

What did you think when you saw your Bachelorette runner-up Jason was chosen as the next Bachelor?

I was very happy for Jason. We talked a lot before we went on. I told him it would be one of the best experiences of his life and that he would form many wonderful friendships and fall in love. I warned him that it is wonderful and hard at the same time.

Oh, here's the link for the People Magazine article: http://tvwatch.people.com/2009/01/26/deanna-pappas-on-upcoming-bachelor-appearance-itll-be-worth-the-wait/

After the Final Rose, Part Deux (DUH)

I wish Molly and Melissa were wearing tee shirts with arrows pointing towards Jason that read, "I'M WITH STUPID"


I admit that I watched Jason on Jimmy Kimmel Live last night. The most "amazing" part was when Evangeline Lily left before Jason could propose to her, too. Good call. I was disgusted by Jason's excuses on Jimmy Kimmel since he taped an episode of that show after getting engaged to Melissa. The best was that Jimmy let Jason *be* the joke.

I just cranked up the DVR and I have Part II of the After the Final Rose ceremony on. It finally occurs to me why this "switcheroo" bothers me so much. All except ONE of the Bachelor/Bachelorette couples have split before getting married so if it were the same fate for Jason and Melissa, no big shock. Jason could have quietly (and well out of the spotlight) have called the engagement off (*OR* given an engagement more than 6 frickin' weeks) and then pursued whomever he chose, but this asshole wanted to have his cake and eat it, too.

It reminds me of the couples we have all known (even on the periphery) who leave their spouses and then try to convince the shattered families that their love couldn't be denied. It's horseshit--selfish and self serving horseshit.

Melissa and Jason got engaged just before Thanksgiving and Jason taped his humiliating breakup on January 18th. Jeez. Even being single, I know how difficult holidays can be for families and so tough on relationships. They knew each other SIX weeks in a surreal setting. Six weeks into real life and this cad dumps his fiancee.

In REAL life, I think Jason is an accountant. In REAL life, he couldn't afford the lifestyle he had on his tv show. Yet, when REAL life becomes the backdrop, this guy cuts and runs. Oh, and he cries....like a girl. I am so goddamned sick and tired of watching this guy cry.

I am so glad that some former bachelorettes have returned. Not sure why Kari is onstage since she wasn't near the top of the list.


Nicki looks so attractive--ahem--once her sideburns are covered up. Thank God she didn't get chosen. She would have melted down if she got the ring and got dumped.

Stephanie looks "amazing," which is Jason's favorite word. She appears to be well rested and so much younger. Steph backs Jason's decision to follow his heart."

I am glad Erica brings it. I had little use for her as a contestant, but unlike Nicki and Steph, she is able to express her disappointment. She said she was flabbergasted and that Jason should have thought about it and taken a step back. Erica nailed it when she said, "These are people's lives and this is a serious commitment." Golly, Erica, you'd think his being a divorced dad and all...that he'd know that.

Naomi, who previously held the title for "Most Awkward Moment" in Bachelor History has been outshined by Jason's dumbass move. Suddenly, burying a dove who committed suicide seems sane. She's also fiesty and talking about wanting to put her fist through the tv and punching Jason.

I am POSITIVE that Melissa had some friends in the Girls' House and it's nice to see women banding together. For a change. Naomi said she saw the connection between Molly and Jason by watching the show the past few weeks.

Kari's back and I disagree with her perspective that he showed integrity to break up with Melissa in front of all of America. Jason and integrity are strangers, if you ask me.

Steph is making the argument that as a parent, you have to do what's best for your child. How is getting a divorce from Mommy, joining a dating show (and Ty thinks he may be getting a new step Mommy) and then being introduced to two more ladies, Molly and Melissa make Jason a "good" parent? We all saw Ty on yesterday's show, just after Melissa accepted the ring, and the three of them jumped into the pool with their clothes on. I am *positive* he knew that Melissa would be joining their family. How do you un-do all that damage??

Erica calls Jason out on that and says just because he's a dad, he won't get a free pass from her. Tonight, Erica rocks!! You just knew, as soon as episode one that Erica would never be getting the ring and frankly, I am surprised Jason kept Erica around as long as he did, but at least she has the guts to say what she thinks...even if she thinks Jason is a schmuck!

Kudos to the GUY in the audience who said Jason should never have gotten engaged if he was so sad about sending Molly home. Male audience member as hard to find and thank goodness this guy didn't play the male "fraternity" card.

Stephanie is trying to bring the sunshine to this situation and as much as I like her, I just can't muster the upside.

Jason appears so he can answer some questions from the audience. Complete understatement when he admits his actions weren't classy and then he excuses himself by saying that he followed his heart. (BIG DEAL! This world is about more than just you.)

In the clip from last night's show, we have to hear (again) how the chemistry changed. Melissa may not have been blindsided, but she says that Jason isn't telling the truth. His insistence that he did what was best for everyone is greatly exaggerated..he did what was best ONLY for himself. I still feel like there are parts of this story we haven't heard.

I am calling BS on the excuse that Jason *finally* saw Molly's emotional side as she was leaving. He, also, says he handled the situation with "integrity." Sure. Breaking up with a fiancee and crushing someone is real integrity, doncha know?

Now Jason is saying that Molly became his best friend. Didn't we heard this about Jillian, as the reason she was sent home. Molly challenges Jason, according to him. No, Jason, she is an immature 24 year old.

I'm proud of Melissa for not showing up and justifying this spectacularly stupid television "reality" show. Molly and her ten pounds of eye makeup have taken the stage. There's something about her sharp eye teeth that make me dislike her smile. Too bad Shannon ("the tooth nazi") left the show too soon. I missed a lot of last night's After the Final Rose--turning off the tv in disgust will lead to that. Anyway, I just picked up on Jason's line from last night, when he is trying to get Molly to take him back. He said, "I think the most insincere thing that I could do would be to move from one thing to another." UH, HULLO??? Isn't that PRECISELY what he's doing?

This show (The After the Final Rose, II) was only taped this weekend (maybe Friday?) and Chris asks Molly what's been the hardest part and she talks about her morals being called into question, etc. BUT last Friday was well before the finale aired. I am sure everyone on the show has read Reality Steve, but asking the question and making it seem current is pretty underhanded. Even for ABC. And as sad as these rumors have been Molly is so glad to have Jason to lean on. Boo-frickin-hoo!

I think it was in poor taste to put Molly and Jason onstage together. They are *NOT* a Bachelor success story! Chris keeps harping on the fact that Jason and Molly hadn't seen each other until the first "After the Final Rose" ceremony. I will NEVER *ever* believe that.

Big deal that Molly is moving to Seattle. Based on what she knows of Jason's track record, I'd advise to pack light and consider moving into that fabulous tent the crew presented to you. ICK!! The final few minutes of tonight's show basically rubbed Jason and Molly's lovie-dovie twisted relationship.

As for the big announcement that Jillian is the next Bachelorette, eh? As me if I care!! Seriously, I didn't like her from her immediate "hot dog toppings" cry for attention. I did like her howntown date and her extended family was awesome....probably the best of the three he met. In light of her constantly having to explain that she had trouble with her feelings, etc, I'd say this will be about as much fun of watching paint dry!! I feel too hoodwinked to give this show any more of my attention, ratings, or advertising dollars.

I still have ZERO idea as to why Deanna came back (except that from episode one of this season, they showed in in quick succession to the old "crying hysterically over the balcony" Jason. Deanna got about 45 seconds of air time. For *months* she has been plugging her upcoming cameo and DeAnna has mentioned that her appearance will be well worth the wait, in fact, here is what she told People Magazine on January 26th, "It will be worth the wait. The women were not that happy to see me, I can tell you that." http://tvwatch.people.com/2009/01/26/deanna-pappas-on-upcoming-bachelor-appearance-itll-be-worth-the-wait/

Did any of the other women even SEE her? Delusional Deanna! I hope that 45 second walk-on role goes towards you grand total of 15 minutes of fame!!

Chris Harrison's Blog--Liar, Liar Pants on Fire

I usually try to remember to link Chris Harrison's blog the day after The Bachelor airs, but I knew this week's would be more important than his previous blogs since he'd white-washed all the rumors that were swirling (mainly courtesy of Reality Steve who was 100% on target). Predictably, Chris is still trying to white-wash and it's impossible to do that and not impugn your own character. Shame on Chris Harrison--but I am sure that as an ABC employee, he has no choice but to further the lies....so here is Chris's explanation:

So there you have it. Now you all know how it ended and you get to judge for yourself what the circumstances were that surrounded Jason's decision. Today's blog will give you the facts, as I know them, of what happened, but in the end it's your decision what you believe. I'm going to deal with most of what took place on the show today but I will also put up another more detailed blog on Wednesday after you have all had a chance to see ATFR part 2. Just to give you all a timeline of the events, here's what went down.

Jason proposed to Melissa right before Thanksgiving over in New Zealand. It was an awesome day and night. They couldn't have been happier. I have an amazing picture of the three of us that I took on my phone right after the proposal. They were both very much in love and the scene couldn't have been better. It appeared to us he had found a terrific woman who would become his wife. You have to understand that we want a proposal and we want a true happy ending. I would have sworn up and down that that is what we had that night. I thought on the flight home that you, the viewers, are going to eat this love story up. I talked to Jason and Melissa several times after the proposal and all was going well.

After the holidays something changed. Jason was struggling with Melissa and he told me something was wrong and things had changed between them. A few weeks after that I heard that Jason was going to break up with Melissa and that he still had feelings for Molly. I will be honest when I tell you that my heart sank. I loved Jason and Mel as a couple and selfishly knew that their success together would be great for our show. A true love story with a perfect ending, but all that was shattered with that phone call. My first thought was, Oh my god, he's going to do the unthinkable and make the switch. Turns out I was right. Jason knew he and Melissa were through and wanted another shot with Molly, who he had also fallen in love with. So here we are in the middle of the Bachelor season on TV and our Bachelor is breaking up with the woman he chose and going after the one that he let go. We had a decision to make. What do we do with this situation and this information? Do we let all of America just keep going along with this happy little fairytale only to find that in the end it all blew up a month and a half prior? It's not like Jason was breaking up with Mel and just going away. He was asking for a shot with the girl you saw him break up with in New Zealand. I know this has been controversial but in my mind the only thing we could do out of respect for all of you watching was to show, as delicately as possible, what the hell was happening. Not that it makes it any better or easier, but the fact is everybody knows when they sign up for this show everything about their story will be public. It's a TV show and that is not a big secret. They are well aware of what they got into.

We quickly put together the first After the Final Rose special and brought the three of them together to play it out. I won't speak for Melissa but I can tell you she wasn't blindsided. She knew things weren't going well. Did she know Jason was going to break up with her? Honestly, I don't know. You'll have to ask her, or you could ask your double top-secret source who's second cousin knows a guy who saw the Bachelor once ( I love the ''Source'' -- great stuff). Believe me when I tell you that was the hardest, most uncomfortable show I've ever hosted. I like Melissa very much, and in fact we've talked several times since the taping including Friday before the second ATFR special. Of course, she was hurt and pissed that night we shot the special, but she feels, as do I, that everything happens for a reason and that she's better off. I consider Melissa a friend of mine, and when I go home to Dallas she'll be the first person my wife and I will call to have a cold one with. I know it's hard to see this but these are real people trying the best they can to deal with real issues. As I've said before, that's what makes this show so incredibly compelling to watch.

Because we shot the special and because what happened was so explosive, I assumed it would leak out. We could have been real A-holes and held off till we were closer to the end but that wouldn't have been fair to anybody. So we shot that special six weeks ago. It's unfortunate things leaked out like they did but we know how that happened and who's responsible. We were also well aware of the ''bonus'' information you have been given. I'm not sure why ruining the ending of one of the most successful shows on TV wasn't enough for people but it should have been. To hear these ''people'' go on and add their own twists and turns to the story was not only laughable but flat out ridiculous. To be quite honest, I could care less, but I know Jason, Molly, and Melissa have been hurt by all this and that's where I draw the line, and I do care about that. We said this on the show but I want to make it very clear to you, that when Molly walked on that stage six weeks ago that was the first time she had seen Jason since the finale was shot. A quick side note: When you're making up stories, try to make it somewhat realistic. Do you really think we would fly anybody into the Bachelor's hometown for a date after the show was wrapped? Not even Melissa met him in Seattle. Come on people, I expect better rumors and lies from you by now. Try meeting in Mexico or Canada that would have been so much more believable.

A lot has happened in the six weeks since we shot that first special and that is what you will see on March 3 on After the Final Rose part 2. I think we did a pretty good job of answering most of the tough questions surrounding the decision and what has happened since. I wasn't real sure, since we have never done this before, how it would go and if it would help at all, but it did. I'm not saying that if you're really mad it's going to make everything all better but I could tell from the audience that they could at least now understand and see both sides. I know many of you have sworn to me that this is it — you will never watch again. To those of you who have said that and feel this way I say this: I'm sorry your feelings were hurt and I'm sorry you didn't get the magical ending you thought you were going to get. My promise to you is that no matter what happens on this show, good or bad, we're going to show it. We can't have a show where we only show the good parts and when things turn ugly, as life often does, we stop pack up our stuff, apologize to the millions watching, and just go home. Jason chose this path. I hope you will come back and watch the show, but if not, thanks for your support and thanks for seven great years together. I'll keep your side of the bed warm in case you decide to come back home. Again, I will be back with a special blog on Wednesday that will wrap this up and give you what final thoughts I have on this season. Unfortunately, I can't wait to read your comments and then write Wednesday's blog, but I will be reading all of your comments as usual. See you tomorrow!


http://popwatch.ew.com/popwatch/2009/03/chris-harrison.html

He'll be back tomorrow with more ABC propaganda. He can "keep my side of the bed warm," but I won't be back. As they say, Chris, that was the final rose so please say your good byes.....

Jason's ex wife, Hilary, her music video (and Jason's Myspace page)

What seems like a million times a day, people click on this site to find out info about Hilary Mesnick, AKA Hillary Madison Wynn or Hilary Buckholtz Monrean. I have already linked her model mayhem page http://www.modelmayhem.com/710983.

Here's a photo of her that I found online tonight on Google images

I don't know why they got divorced--I only know it became official LAST February and in the past year, Jason has been a busy boy. You know, joining the cast of "The Bachelorette," schmoozing Deanna, getting dumped, proposing to Melissa on his version of "The Bachelor," dumping her on national television and now pursuing Molly.

I'd say Hilary dodged a bullet. Her ex husband is an asshole. Oh, here's a music video by a Seattle band called "Out from Underneath." Hilary is in this video called Happy."

By the way, I truly do think this is Jason's Myspace page...http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=379276576&MyToken=de734208-413f-4392-9474-d3d3f29c3d68

Jason Mesnick is a Weasel (After the Final Rose Ceremony)

Within 2 minutes, Jason is onstage and in tears. He and Melissa are "not right" for each other. His excuse? The chemistry has been completely different. In the SIX WEEKS between the proposal and when this show was taped. ALL Melissa knows, going into the taping, is that Jason isn't happy.

Over the past few weeks, Jason hasn't been able to stop thinking about Molly.

OFFICIALLY? Jason is a complete bastard. ABC's been making this guy the saint and in the end......he's a dog.

When Chris Harrison asks of Jason has spoken with Molly at all, he says no, but very tellingly, he looked down. He also refers to being engaged to Melissa in the past tense. What a piece of shit to do this on camera.

Here's an idea. If you propose and it doesn't work out, how about being single for a while? You need to bounce back to the girl you dumped? What an asshole.

I just watched the exchange between Jason and Melissa and I am glad she called him out and called him a bastard.

NO WAY he dumped her without KNOWING Molly would take him back. He snatched the engagement ring out of Melissa's hands a little too quickly for my taste.

This is rich--Jason says he "hates himself" for what he's about to do. Newsflash. You don't hate yourself nearly as much as the viewing audience does right now. Time for Jason to trun on the waterworks. Anyone else tired of seeing Jason weep?

I think Melissa was very dignified and classy as she left the stage. She is clearly hurt. This was so unnecessary.

In my opinion, Molly and Jason deserve each other. I will never believe that she didn't know this house of cards was all about to fall. Molly and Jason BOTH suck.

I didn't watch Deanna's season, but who hasn't seen the final rose...when Deanna lets Jason bend on one knee to propse and leaves him there for what seems like eternity before she clues him in that she's in love with the other guy? What Jason did tonight makes Deanna's crap pale in comparison.

Blah, blah, blah---Molly is onstage and there's no way I believe she and Jason haven't had contact. There were internet rumors of Molly and Jason in Hawaii after Christmas. Molly is just not that good of an actor. I am turning off the tv for the night. I have zero interest in this show. They have played everyone. Melissa will be fine. Jason is a jerk off, Molly is a dud. The saddest victim is Ty, who has been used as a pawn by Jason TWICE on a dating reality show. LOSER!

The Bachelor--finale

So I watched the "Women Tell All" show last Monday and frankly, the women told NOTHING. I don't think Raquel, from Brazil, uttered a word. There was a huge emphasis on PAST Bachelor/Bachelorette contestants (yawn) and of course, no one can ever refer to "The Bachelor" at ABC without rolling out Trista and Ryan--the *ONLY* couple to actually marry. Yeah, yeah...we get that, but is anyone else burned out on those two?

I wrote a few weeks ago that someone sent me a link to "Reality Steve" and after reading his site, I believe he has the goods on how this show will end. After watching "The Women Tell All" and Jason's appearance on "The View" on Friday morning, I am 110% convinced that it works out exactly as Steve has predicted.

I have tonight's finale on, but I'm not glued to the dialogue. I'm not sorry I read on Steve's site--in fact, the opposite. This installment of The Bachelor has gotten sky-high ratings and the viewers seem to genuinely LIKE Jason. After reading at Reality Steve's....I no longer count myself as a fan of Jason.

There's an hour and a half left to drag this out tonight and an unprecedented additonal show tomorrow night. I hadn't watched The Bachelor in years and after this trainwreck, I am sure it will be years (again) before I bother.

Okay--checking back in on this post and it's 9:45 EST. Molly has been dumped and it was odd. The way she told him that he'd be hurt again. It was just a strange thing to say. And now, we finally get to see Jason weeping off his balcony...which has been hyped since episode one of this season.

Molly is in the limo and upholding the promise she made to her dad to "not cry" in the limo if she were let go. So far, so good, Reality Steve. As someone who never cared for Molly, I find her stoicism off putting and her insistence that Jason is bound to get hurt again? Can she say NOTHING about her own feelings or is she just dead inside??

What is sad here is that *IF* Melissa were chosen and they were happily engaged at this point (tee hee), seeing how he didn't stand up for her would be impossible to watch.

Oh, and recapping Deanna's surprise appearance from earlier? WHAT A WASTE!! ABC hyped that two minute appearance and milked it for all it was worth. They flew Deanna from Atlanta to New Zealand for that?? .

Once they come back from commercial, Jason will proprose to Melissa, but at my house, I have the feeling I am about to watch an innocent lamb being led to slaughter once the After the Final Rose ceremony airs at 10PM.

I don't know how much of Jason telling Melissa how "amazing" she is that I can take, so on a side note....maybe ABC should have left Deanna in Atlanta and taken her travel budget and gotten Melisa and Molly hair stylists for this last episode??

Wow. Jason is now on one knee and proposing.

I wonder what could POSSIBLY go wrong? We just paired the "happiest girl in the world" and the "happiest man in the entire universe." Everyone is jumping in the pool in formal clothes and yes, Ty is dragged in to this sordid mess. Next up--After the Final Rose.

Kim Zolciak and *MORE* drama, restraining orders, etc

Awww. I was so sad when Kim Zolciak's website disappeared. I had it linked right here, on my homepage. It was a GREAT site...for those who may have missed its short existence, a web site for Kimmy appeared shortly after New Years 2009 and it was hilarious.

It featured VERY close up photos of Kimmy, in a bikini, on vacation in the Caribbean. Incredulously, Kim tried to explain that the photos were taken by fans. Uh-huh. And how did they end up on her own web page? Yet another fib, but the site featured Kim blogging about her upcoming tv appearances, photos she took of herself in the gowns she was considering (taken on her cell phone camera) and all kinds of oogling about Bonnie Hunt's impersonations of her.

And then.....with no warning.......the site went black. The image, which is still showing on my blog roll, is that the site has been pulled due to NON-PAYMENT. Geez. It costs *maybe* 20 bucks a month to web host so what gives?

I finally found the answer on E! Online on Friday. Kimmy and her "publicist" are at odds. He is suing her and they are both seeking restraining orders. Unbelivable.

Here's the article: http://www.eonline.com/uberblog/b102171_real_housewives_kim_peeved.html

Kim Zolciak is having an image crisis—with the guy who used to be responsible for her image.

The Real Housewives of Atlanta hausfrau has been sued for breach of contract by her publicist, whom she is simultaneously trying to restrain via a court order.

Per TMZ.com, Zolciak has filed a request for a protective order against her former rep, Jonathan Jaxson, in which she accuses him of using the website KimZolciakOnline.com to sabotage her. The brash blonde claims Jaxson changed the password and security settings so she couldn't access the site and then posted a litany of lies about her.

But according to Jaxson's camp, it's Zolciak who needs a lesson on how to play nice with others.

"Jaxson is in fear for his safety and has filed a police report with the Atlanta Police Department after threats were made concerning his well-being by Ms. Zolciak," a rep for Jaxson tells E! News.

Jaxson filed a breach-of-contract lawsuit against the aspiring country songstress Feb. 23 for $15,000 in back fees, claiming she had stopped paying his monthly retainer fee, thereby immediately voiding their contract.

And furthermore, Jaxson's rep says, he owns the website Zolciak has accused him of hijacking.

I love the part where her publicicst notes that Kim Zolciak needs a lesson on how to play nice with others--an assertion I am sure would be backed by NeNe and Lisa!!